Married Blind 3 discusses what’s acceptable in the name of love (review)

Certain entertainment programs tend to win us over for bringing a more “deep” layer, let’s say. I put the deductible blind marriage🇧🇷 from Netflix, in this batch: there is a certain pleasure in watching this reality show for feeling a bit like anthropologists of everyday life.


By this I mean that we rejoice in the idea that we learn something about the human when we consume a product of this type. The raw material of Casamento à Cegas is the premise of romantic love taken to its ultimate consequences: is it possible to discover true love without knowing the external element (aesthetics), just paying attention to what the person “has inside”?

The proposal to investigate this issue is once again resumed with season 3 of Blind Marriage in its American version. The delivered package is the same: men and women are placed in isolated rooms (the pods) and talk to each other separated by a wall. After a certain amount of time, they have to decide if they are in love with someone and, if so, make a marriage proposal to their supposed soulmate.


But the program begins even after that: when the walls are removed and the couples need to live together briefly (about two months) to decide whether they are really going to say the symbolic “yes” in front of an altar – what does it mean, in the phrase repeated several times during the season, that love is blind (that is, that it exists beyond the “eyes” of physical seduction).

Although it seems like a closed formula (and it really is), the grace of Blind Marriage is to delve into the minutiae shown in these dynamics of relationships to weave our alleged analyzes about the complex task of living with someone🇧🇷 Even if season 3 is a little lukewarm at times, this material is there.

The Couples from Married Blind 3


In all seasons of Blind Wedding, we follow about a dozen characters who are introduced right at the beginning and go on “dates” in isolated rooms, without ever seeing each other. Clearly, this part of the show is scripted: there are certainly other couples on the show, but only five are selected to have their stories told for the rest of the season.

These ten subjects tend to function as “archetypes” of something that can be easily identified by the audience. In Marriage Is Blind 3, characters don’t seem as well drawn as in previous seasons, but we have enough material to unwind some discussion about them🇧🇷


We have Bartise, a 25-year-old black man who worships his own body and ends up with Nancy, a Latin American woman who has been courted by at least three men. Right away, when they meet, Bartise makes it clear that Nancy falls short of her standard. More suitable for him would be Raven, a Pilates instructor who got dumped by Bartise and ended up making up with Sikiru (SK), a Nigerian who brings the culture of his country as a very strong value. Raven and Bartise unapologetically feel like the cutest of the bunch, and so there’s a thinly-veiled suspicion that they should be together.

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Cole, who seems to have a rather unpleasant premise of making fun of embarrassing situations, stays with Zanab, a motherless orphan flight attendant who has clear problems with her own self-esteem. However, when he sees her, he soon regrets choosing Zanab over Colleen, who he says is more like her. She, in turn, has committed to Matt, a man traumatized by a previous marriage and who is sabotaging his new relationship at every opportunity he gets.

Finally, there’s Alexa and Brennon, a television version of The Lady and the Tramp: she is an empowered woman who belongs to a wealthy Israeli family, in which all the women seem to copy the Kardashians. Brennon, on the other hand, exposes her archetype in the publicity photo, in which she holds a cowboy🇧🇷 Can the relationship between the refined rich girl and the poor country bumpkin work out?

The wealth of human material

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Blind Marriage tends to be much talked about because of the shacks that tend to happen mainly in the final episodes, when they have to declare, in what would be the climax of the program, whether they will say yes or no to their better half. This tension builds up very efficiently – though that means at least 9 previous episodes that could be a lot shorter if the burrs were trimmed.

But I believe that the great wealth of this reality show it is in the middle: in what we manage to extract as content for the analysis of human dynamics.

Added to this is the cultural impact due to the fact that this is an American program, which brings certain strangeness to us Brazilians. There is, for example, the story between Raven and SK. Did she choose him because Bartise chose another woman? Is there possible love to arise caused by a rejection?

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But the most interesting aspect here is that SK is mediated by a “strong” family culture, in which marriage is understood as something collective. For the mother of the groom, it makes no sense to have a wedding if the bride’s family is not present. Raven, on the other hand, tries to clarify that she is marrying the man and not his family (but she is not above trying to conform in various ways to the submissive figure expected of women in Nigerian culture).

Another slightly creepy example is from Bartise and Nancy. She is a speech therapist who seems quite enlightened and progressive. The issue of the right to abortion enters the couple’s conversation at some point: he says that he would not give up a pregnancy, no matter what kind of problem the child had, because he would be able to handle it (clearly, a standard male position of someone who doesn’t have the slightest idea of ​​what it means to raise a child, which suggests he would bail at the first difficulty).

She has another position: she says that, due to the number of children with difficulties she assisted in her work, she rethought her position on the right to abortion. But the most curious thing here is that, when Bartise introduces Nancy to his family, he already brings up this discussion about abortion in the first meeting between them.

Likewise, Colleen, who declares herself as someone with whom men never make a commitment and who they judge as superficial, is reticent about the attacks that her fiancé Matt has in the face of banal situations, such as the fact that she has stayed at the club with the friends. Would it be acceptable for Matt to be destabilized by things that are not so important?

What is too serious and what must be tolerated in the name of “love”? These are the little pearls present in blind marriage and that make us come back every year to check out this reality show of loving embarrassment.

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